HOW TO KEEP YOUR WEDDING PLANS ON YOUR TERMS
Your day, Your way
I’ve said it countless times before but… it’s YOUR big day, so you should be planning things your way. But I do appreciate that’s easier said than done!
Every person wants to be the one to give you that idea that you’d not yet considered, & to get a mention or credit on your wedding day. Bless their cotton socks for trying to help!
I guess it’s a bit like when you’re a new parent – everyone has some “useful” advice & opinions to pass on. Just nod & say thanks. Keep in mind that your wedding day is a representation of you & your other half. If a well-meaning family member, friend or colleague has a nugget of information to impart, then that’s nice. However, you DON’T need to take it & use it if you don’t want to.
You could say “thanks but that doesn’t fit with our vision of our wedding. It’s a great idea though!” How diplomatic am I??
Oh, the wedmin…
As a planner, one of the most useful services that I provide is the admin (or, as it’s affectionately known, wedmin). I respond to emails & messages on the detail of your wedding day. This takes a lot of pressure off you as, let’s face it, you should be enjoying this part of your engagement – not stuck answering questions on why you chose this colour scheme & wouldn’t such-and-such other theme suit better.
Another place you may find unsolicited advice is online wedding forums & Facebook wedding groups. In theory, & in fact the majority of the time, these are great places to bounce ideas around & have a semi-anonymous rant about the frustrations of planning a wedding. But they can also cause some negative reactions, especially when you’re having a brilliantly quirky wedding. You know if it’s not someone’s scene that they’ll tell you that! Ignore them. it’s your day, do it your way.
Stay quirky, always
I guess what I’m trying to say is that when you’re a wonderfully alternative couple, you’ll most likely get some not so wonderful feedback. You just need to ignore it & carry on creating a day that you & your partner will cherish memories of forever.
Get in touch with me today on firstname.lastname@example.org so we can have a chat about how I can help you create the most amazing day. Bxx