How to incorporate lost loved ones at your wedding

I wrote a blog on this last year but it’s such an important subject that I wanted to revisit it.

There are lots of ways available for you to make sure that those you have loved and who have passed on can still be part of your big day.

Here are just a few suggestions, if you have more ideas I’d love to hear them! Email me on


  • There are several companies available now who can create memorial jewellery or accessories – rings or pendants containing the ashes of loved ones, cufflinks with a special signature engraved, a photo and a charm on lockets to hang onto your bridal bouquet
  • Perhaps incorporate some lace from your late mothers or grandmothers dress into your own dress or perhaps as a garter?
  • Set a place at the table with your loved ones name and photo
  • Have a poem or short speech dedicated to them during the main speeches – don’t forget to raise a toast to absent friends / family.
  • Talk about them! Keep their memory alive during the day, commenting on what part would’ve been their favourite, what they would have worn, etc
  • A nice touche is maybe a butterfly or dove release in their memory, usually just after the ceremony has taken place
  • Forget-me-not seeds as favours with loved ones details on the tag (in memory of “name” “dates”)
  • Finally perhaps consider a moment of silence to reflect on those you have loved and lost

“How lucky am I to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard?”